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well-decorated. The cage is there but now it is a golden cage. When he says 'I give you freedom', he is hoping that you will not ask any more about freedom. Because he is giving it; what else can you ask? You will feel obliged to never do anything. He is giving you freedom but don't take it for granted: that's what he means. He says, 'Look at my generosity -- I am giving you freedom. Now feel obliged and never do anything that proves that you are free.' In fact he is trying to make you obliged to him.
In real love the lovers know -- how can you give freedom because who are you? You are not the master of the other, so the other is free. Love does not give freedom, it simply enhances freedom. It cannot give because it never takes it from you: it enhances. But don't ask the impossible. Go slowly.
Each stage has to be passed and each stage has to be understood, and you have to ripen in many stages before you can reach to the ultimate of love. So if this man is in love with you meaning if he likes you and you like him -- no problem is there: you can still be together. If you feel, 'No, there is not even liking....' Never pay attention to what he says. Always pay attention to your own heart, because it is there you have to live.
Maybe he loves you or he likes you but you don't like him. Sometimes it happens that the person likes you so much that you start feeling guilty. He likes you so much and you cannot like him; how ugly you are. How can you not even love him? He likes you and he cries and he is suffering so much for you, so you should go to him. But that won't help. You have to listen to your heart.
And never feel guilty! What can you do? If you cannot like him, there is nothing to do. You have to simply say that you are helpless. He loves you, you know, but you don't feel any desire for him. So you are sorry, you feel sorry for him too, but he will have to knock on some other door and you will have to knock on some other door. So say good-bye, but always listen to your heart; otherwise one can go on repressing. Sometimes the other can use it as a strategy, that he cries and weeps and says that he will die and will commit suicide; he cannot
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