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help him also to become clear about it.
Otherwise you can drift away, mm? -- he is thinking that this is dangerous and sometime if he is possessed to kill again and he does, that will not be right. It is better he leave, go away; this is dangerous. You may start thinking that if it happens again and you allow him and he really kills you, then what? Better separate before it happens. Your minds can create such a situation, an interpretation, that you start drifting away, you can separate. But there is no need.
So first have a good communion with your friend. Make your whole heart clear to him and let him also pour his heart out to you too.
I don't see that there is any problem. He is not a murderer and you are not suicidal. But in love sometimes this moment comes. Sometimes only because there is great love does this moment come. It is very difficult to find a lover who has not sometimes thought to kill the woman he loves. That is a kind of absorption. If one loves a woman one wants to be so together with her that her separate existence is a constant reminder that she is separate. So is the case with the woman too: deep inside the woman also wants to absorb the man completely, to eat up the man.
Have you ever heard that it has happened sometimes? -- lovers eat parts of each other's bodies. That looks mad. But it is because of very intense love that it happens. They become so absorbed in it that they forget all reason. Lovers can become consumers of each other; they can be cannibals. Love is a kind of cannibalism. So you just make it clear to him, mm?... and if you want to be killed, be killed by me!
[Another tantra group member says he had very good and total experiences in the group but now he feels a lot of tension and fear.]
It will go; nothing to be worried about. Sometimes it happens that if a group has gone very very well as this Tantra group has, after the group you start feeling tense. It is as if one has been rich and suddenly becomes poor. One was enjoying a different kind of world and then falls back into the ordinary world....
That's my feeling about why you feel so much fear and so much tension. You have
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