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SEIZE HIM WITH A TERRIFIC STRUGGLE.
Struggle is going to be there, because the mind is not going to lose its power easily. The mind has been a dictator for so long; now you want the dictator to come down from the throne -- it is impossible. The mind has become accustomed to bossing you and bullying you. It will give you a tough fight. It will go on following you, and it will go on finding weak moments when it can again overpower you.
I have heard a very beautiful anecdote:
The family was gathered at dinner. The eldest son announced he was going to marry the girl next door.
"But her family did not leave her anything," the father objected.
"And she spends all her salary," added the mother.
"What does she know about football?" asked the younger brother.
"Did you ever see a girl with so many freckles?" demanded the sister.
"All she does is read books," grumbled the uncle.
"And doesn't dress with what I would have called good taste," snapped the aunt.
"But she doesn't forget the paint and the powder," chimed the grandma.
"Yes," said the son, "but she has one big advantage over all of us."
"What's that?" came the chorus of voices.
"No family!" retorted the son.
The family resists always. Now the son is going to get married; that means another woman, a stranger, is now going to become the most important person in his life. The family feels shaken. No family ordinarily, normally, accepts such a situation -- it fights.
In India, love is not allowed. Marriage has to be arranged by the family. The father has to think about it, the uncle has to think, the brothers, the mother; everybody except the person who is really concerned, who is going to be married. He is not to be asked, as if he has no part in it. He is going to live with this woman to whom he is going to be married, but he is not even asked. Then the family does not feel threatened; it is their own choice.
But if a son comes and says: I have fallen in love, the whole family feels antagonistic. The antagonism is because now a stranger is going to become very, very important. The mother will never feel at
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