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things they have to take care of: the children and the finance and the security and the name and the family; that's another thing. But love has disappeared; love has been exposed to the conscious and it has disappeared. Hate goes on accumulating, becomes heavier and heavier every day.
The second possibility is: release hate and keep love inside. That too has been done, a very few people have done that; that is far better than the first. If you go to primitive people you can see that that is what they do. They never show much love but they show hate. The husband beats the wife and she screams at him; that goes on. You will not see love scenes, that they are holding hands and looking into each other's eyes; you will never see the primitive people doing that. But sometimes the husband is beating the wife and she is shouting and screaming and crying. That you will see many times but no love scenes, only hate scenes. That is far better than the first because hatred is released and love goes on accumulating, but they never show it. It is there, they feel it, they both know, but it is a feeling; no expression is needed.
And the third possibility is: release both and become empty. That's the highest peak.
The fourth possibility is also there: repress both -- many people do that too. They neither love nor hate; they become cold; frozen, they are dead people, they are walking corpses. These are the only alternatives.
Perfectly good -- go with it; let whatsoever comes, come. And allow her also; whatsoever comes to her, allow her. Respect each other's moods, even the sad moods, even the angry moods. Respect the other and soon you will see that something beautiful grows out of it.
The Sun Behind the Sun Behind the Sun
Chapter #3
Chapter title: None
3 January 1978 pm in Chuang Tzu Auditorium
Archive code: 7801035
ShortTitle: SUNSUN03
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Deva means divine, bodha means awareness -- divine awareness, an awareness that cannot be cultivated; it can only be received as a gift. Man cannot create it, man can only become a receptacle. There is another kind of awareness
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