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will be good. This will be just a guess. With the second you will start feeling that you are no longer interested in the woman or the man, that your interest is turning inward'.
With the third you will become perfectly aware. It is like waking. VISUDDHA meeting AJNA... you will become perfectly aware, the meeting is happening in the daylight. Or you can say it in this way: the first meeting happens in the dark middle of the night; the second meeting happens in a twilight time between the day and the night; the third meeting happens in full noon -- you are fully alert, everything is clear. Now you know you are finished with the outer. It does not mean that you will leave your wife or your husband, it simply means that the infatuation is no more; you will feel compassion. Certainly the woman who has helped you so far is a great friend, the man who has brought you so far is a great friend; you are grateful.
You will start being grateful and compassionate to each other. It is always so when understanding arises -- it brings compassion. If you leave your wife and escape to the forest, that simply shows you are cruel and compassion has not arisen. It can be only out of non-understanding, it cannot be out of understanding. If you understand, you will have compassion.
When Buddha became enlightened, the first thing he said to his disciples was 'I would like to go to Yashodhara and talk to her.' His wife...
Ananda was very much disturbed. He said 'What is the point of your going back to the palace and talking to your wife? You have left her. Twelve years have passed.' And Ananda was a little bit disturbed also, because how can a Buddha think about his wife? Buddhas are not expected to think that way.
When the others had left, Ananda said to Buddha 'This is not good. What will people think?'
Buddha said 'What will people think? I have to express my gratitude to her, and I have to thank her for all the help she gave me. And I have to give something of that which has happened to me -- I owe that much to her. I will have to go.'
He came back. He went to the palace. He saw his wife. Certainly Yashodhara was mad! This man escaped
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