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infatuation of the body. It has no depth, it is as deep as the physical body. That's what you call love, that's what you call falling in love. Yes, it is a fall.
Then there is a second kind of love, the love of the bliss body. You don't know about it It is not a fall. It is a stillness, it is a rest. You don't fall -- rather, you become rooted, grounded. You lose all wavering, you lose all waves, you become a silent pool. That's what should be meant by love.
And there is a third kind of love that comes from the essential body. That love should be called prayer. You rise in it, you never fall in it. The first love is a fall. The second love is a stabilizer, a grounding, a centering. And the third love is a rising into the sky -- it gives you wings.
When I am talking about love I mean both the second and the third. Because for the third to happen the second will be needed. But I am not against the first, I am not against the physical love -- because unless you fall many times you will not be able to be grounded. Hence I am all for it. Fall as many times as you can, so that you can learn how not to fall. That's the only way to learn -- one learns through errors and mistakes. A child starts learning walking, he falls many times. If the mother is very much against falling, the child will never be able to walk on his own, he will remain a cripple his whole life.
That's how millions of people have remained crippled. Because the society and the priests and the parents go on insisting that the physical love has something of sin in it: Avoid it! Then of course you don't fall -- but a man who cannot fall will not know how to stand without falling. A child that cannot afford to fall sometimes, will not be able to walk at all -- will remain crippled, will have to use crutches.
Marriage is a crutch -- cripples are using it all over the world. Because they cannot fall in love, so they settle for something synthetic, plastic. Fall as many times as you can, and enjoy falling, and learn the art of falling -- because only through that will you be able one day to learn how to stand on your own without falling.
Out of the first love the second
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