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anxiety ? Why become divided, split?
Live the moment! Live the suchness of it and live it totally. And out of this lived moment, out of this lived suchness, the other will come -- it will arise on its own. And when it comes on its own it is tremendously beautiful.
Surrender will come, but that is the flowering. Will is like the seed and surrender is like the flower. Wait... nothing to be worried about. It is on the way, mm?
[A sannyas couple ask about their relationship. The woman had had a car accident which caused many changes in her. The man said they had opposite temperaments; he felt blocked in expressing love.]
I understand. It is something very fundamental to be understood. First, we are always attracted towards the opposite person, the opposite type. People fall in love with the opposite type, because if you are in love with somebody who is just like you, you will feel as if you are in love with your twin -- and that will be monotonous. It will be as if you are in love with your own picture, with your own mirror-reflection.
Only very egoistic persons fall in love with the same type of person -- very very egoistic people... narcissistic. They fall in love with a person who is just like them, a carbon copy. But then they have other problems, their ego creates the problem.
They don't allow the other any freedom whatsoever, because any freedom seems to be a betrayal. The other has to be just a replica, exact and precise. The other should not be allowed nay individuality. If the other asserts any individuality there is conflict -- and how can the other be just a replica? Then there is pretension, hypocrisy. People wear masks and pretend, but then love disappears; love is not possible.
In that way there is a problem, because the person is only in love with his own ego and he wants the other to fit exactly with his ego -- that's not possible. Either the other is killed -- then there is a dead person, and you cannot love a dead person.... And if the other is alive you cannot love, because you want him to be just a replica, just a copy to your being; so you are asking the impossible. Either way there is frustration.
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