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sexual; on the contrary, you have become more perverted. Sex has become more poisoned -- so try Chuang Tzu, you are not going to lose anything. Be sexual when sex comes. Just as when hunger comes, you eat food, so when sex comes be sexual. Don't make any choice, don't say this is wrong. It is good. Accept it -- it is part of nature. And suddenly the moment will come when you will be a unity and sex will be transformed automatically into love.
Because a man who is in unity.... Try to understand what this unity means.
Every man and every woman is bisexual: every man is both man and woman inside, and every woman is both man and woman inside. No one is simply man or woman -- they cannot be -- because one parent was a man and the other parent was a woman, and you carry both within you -- half and half. Half your mother and half your father is carried within you, so you are both male and female -- half and half. This is the deep split. And if you create more split, this split will widen more and more. Drop all splits, don't create any fight -- don't choose. Be angry and accept it, be sexual and accept it, be greedy and accept. What else can you do? Nature has given these things to you so accept them, and their consequences of course.
If you are angry, then someone else will be angry -- accept the anger and the consequences. Then your split drops, and by and by your inner bi-sexuality becomes a harmony, a circle is created, an inner orgasm happens -- your female and your male meet inside. And when they meet inside you have become one; now a new being is born. This one-ness has love as its shadow. You cannot love. Your love is a facade, a deception. Your love is just a trick, your love is just to attain sex. That's why when you attain sex, love disappears.
Once you have had sexual intercourse with a woman or a man, love disappears. Again after twenty four hours energy will come, you will accumulate energy, and there will be sex again -- you will become loving again. So love is just a means to have sex, that's why you cannot love your own wife or husband -- very difficult. How can you love? The need has disappeared. Love is just a courting, just
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